6 Reasons To Appreciate Your Mate

Appreciation is the act of giving something or someone their proper value, and everybody has value. Value in a relationship is important because it lets a person know where they stand, and what they mean to you; appreciation is a way of letting that person know these things. When someone is dedicated to a relationship, and they don’t know how valuable they are to that partnership it changes how they function, and how they operate in that union. When a person believes that you don’t value them they tend to devalue the relationship they’re in.

Relationships tend to develop problems when one of the partners doesn’t feel appreciated. The longer that person feels unappreciated the more likely it is that they may come to resent being taken for granted, so by purposely showing your partner that you appreciate what they do, you’re eliminating a lot of problems that can happen when you don’t. Here are some good reasons why you should show them how you feel.

Reason 1: It makes them happy
Most people enjoy doing things for other people, and many derive happiness from being generous and giving.It’s when they never get a thank you, or other acknowledgement, that they become disgruntled about doing so. Most people don’t need payment for the acts of kindness, and love that they do for you, so simply telling them how much you appreciate their efforts will make them happy. They can never hear this too much.


Reason 2: It makes it easier for them to show you that they appreciate you too.
When you show appreciation for someone, it makes it easier for them to show appreciation to you in return. One of the main reasons people withhold recognition is that they don’t feel recognized in the first place. If you start showing your significant other appreciation, they’ll be more likely to reciprocate.

Reason 3: It lets them know that you’re sincerely grateful for what they do for you.
When a person receives your acknowledgement for what they’ve done it really motivates them to keep doing it, and nothing provides consistency like recognition. Basically, that good deed didn’t go unpunished. The happiness they feel from the good deed encourages them to continue their actions—nothing is more motivating than to know that someone recognizes your efforts.

Reason 4: It makes them feel loved.
Appreciating someone lets them know that you love them. So many times people feel that the people they love don’t love them in the same way that they love that person. People do what they do, because of how they feel about you, so when you strive to show your appreciation for them you’re telling them how much you love them: it has the same effect as saying “I love you.”

Reason 5: It makes them feel respected.
Respect is a big factor in relationships, and without respect, most relationships are doomed to fail. Respect is one of the foundations of a strong partnership, and when you make sure that a person knows that you truly appreciate them, you make them feel respected. The more respect they feel that you have for them, the stronger the relationship will become.

Reason 6: It makes them feel special
Being appreciated in a relationship makes a person feel special, honored, and treasured. When you let someone know how much you appreciate them, you’re telling that person how much they mean to you, and the more special you make that person feel, the stronger your relationship will become..

Here are 8 signs that let you know that your partner doesn’t feel appreciated:

They’re more quiet than usual
They slack off or stop doing the things they once used to
You feel a growing distance in between the two of you
They’re more emotional than normal
They quicker to argue
They say it in so many words
They tell others
They’re sad

Everybody needs reassurances and recognition for the efforts that they make, and the longer it takes you to get around to doing that, the more you open the relationship to problems. Letting a person know that you recognize the things that they do for you is a way of showing that person how much you love them, and making sure that your partner knows that you love them is the best way to create security in a partnership. It’s also a great way to make the relationship last longer.

Appreciation is as important to relationships as respect or trust. A lot of issues that people have in partnerships develop because they don’t feel appreciated—it takes a lot of effort to make a relationship work.

When you’re putting hard work into something, it’s always wonderful to get a pat on the back for your efforts. The more grateful you are for what that person contributes to your life, and your relationship, the happier the two of you can be together. Make appreciating your partner a priority.

IN MEMORY OF A BELOVED MOTHER MRS OTSE

An Angel whispered
take my hand and
come with me
you're work here is done.
I went away to a place
where there's no tears, nor sorrow
only laughter and smiles,
there will be eternal rest
A thousand times we needed you
A thousand times we cried
If love alone could have saved you
you never would have died
A heart of gold stopped beating
two twinkling eyes closed........

But for those who love, time is
Eternity

Rest in peace MRS OTSE

In Memory of those who died in the Dana Air crash

In Memodana

They ran into the earth

And pierced the heart of men

Explosive like a bomb

Both parties fragments lie

And low there is a tomb

To find them in the grave

153 passengers and crew

On board a flight of doom

At least 10 men on ground

Couldn’t run for their dear lives

Families and friends pick up

The pieces of beloved

And all they are left with

In loving memory of Dana

But cash and kind wouldn’t bring back

The souls of their lost ones

By Pimoey.......

Take Control of your Attitude

We all have tremendous potential. Each of us has the ability to put our unique human potential into action and to acquire a desired result. But the one thing that determines the level of our potential and also produces the intensity of our activity and predicts the quality of the result we receive is our attitude. A lot of people in life are not necessary doing something wrong or saying something wrong but they just have a wrong attitude. The bible says ‘Humble yourself therefore under the mighty hand of God that he may exalt you in due time’. It really matters what we are looking at in our life. We can take an example from race runner, it does not mean first to start is always first to finish. Attitude is your way of saying what you want to say. We can say something that is right with a wrong attitude and that destroy the right things we want to say. A lot of time we hear wrongly not because what we say was wrong but because we have a wrong attitude in listening and reading. The problem is that a lot of people who have a wrong attitude hardly discover they have a wrong attitude so they blame everyone else around them for the things that go on around them. Let me clear your doubts by quoting that ‘Your attitude can define your personality’.  Your attitude can define your fulfilment. People with wrong attitude always feel they are in the wrong place; they blame everyone else around them, they move from one company to another, they think they have wasted their years everywhere. They felt people don’t discover there greatness or potentials but the truth is that they got the wrong attitude. They know they are valuable and nobody seems to know or value them, the chances are that they got the wrong attitude. They come to church and don’t participate in anything they are doing and feel too important for the programmes of the church, they faults the pastors, choir, ushers, they even blame the children for their situations but all along the problem lies within them that they got the wrong attitude.

There is so much to learn from the Master’s attitude which is JESUS. There are people Jesus praise in the Old and New Testament, why did he praise them? What was peculiar to them? What was in their character that was so impressive to God? When I look at the bible and one of those charactersthat comes to our mind is John the Baptist. The bible says ‘OF ALL MEN BORN OF WOMEN, THERE IS NO GREATER THAN JOHN THE BAPTIST’ that’s powerful. He said John the Baptist was greater than them all but in the concluding part of the same verse; Matthew 11:11b the bible says ‘Notwithstanding he that is least in the kingdom heaven is greater than He’ which is John the Baptist.The question in my mind was what kind of man was John the Baptist? For Christ to have said powerful words about him. The book of John 3:22-25. In this passage, it shows that Jesus was baptizing somewhere and John was baptizing somewhere also. In verse 25 the question was asked to provoke John the Baptist, a lot of us today would have answered and say let me continue, we will know on the last day. John did not say anything promiscuous, immoral, corrupt about Jesus but instead he answered them in verse 27; ‘A man can receive nothing except it be given him from heaven’ that’s the kind of man John the Baptist his. He continues his answers into from there on to verse 30. He said his joy is to hear the bridegroom voice and he concluded by saying ‘My joy therefore is fulfilled’.

Our attitude determines how much of the future we are allowed to see. It decides the size of our dreams and influences our determination when we are faced with new challenges. No other person on earth has dominion over our attitude. People can affect our attitude by teaching us poor thinking habits or unintentionally misinforming us, or providing us with negative sources of influence, but no one can control our attitude unless we voluntarily surrender that control.If we care at all about ourselves, then we must accept full responsibility for our own feelings. We must learn to guard against those feelings that have the capacity to lead our attitude down the wrong path, and to strengthen those feelings that can lead us confidently into a better future.If we want to receive the rewards the future holds in trust for us, then we must exercise the most important choice given to us as members of the human race by maintaining total dominion over our attitude. Our attitude is an asset, a treasure of great value that must be protected accordingly.When you have the right attitude, you can do the remarkable.When you recognize your gifts, you can change anything for yourself that you wish to change. If you don’t like how something is going for you, change it. If something isn’t good enough, change it. If something doesn’t suit you; change it. If something doesn’t please you, change it. You don’t ever have to be the same after today. If you don’t like your present address, change it.

Finally, having the right attitude is an essential prerequisite for success and happiness. The right attitude is one of the fundamentals of the good life. That is why we must constantly examine our feelings about our role in the world and about our possibilities for achieving our dreams.It is our emotional nature that governs most of our daily conduct in our personal and business world. It is the emotional aspect of our experiences that determines our behaviour. How we feel about life’s events is a powerful force that can either freeze us in our tracks or inspire us to take immediate action on any given day. With the wrong attitude, they can be crushed by the smallest grain of sand but with the right attitude, human beings can move mountains. Let have a right attitude towards our worship, leaders, events, programmes, careers, life, economy, relationship, business, country and the sky will be our limit.

There are so many things that we wish we had done yesterday, so few that we feel like doing today. Let’s all go out and change our life and environment with the right attitude today.

BISHOPD

2015: Lamido/Amaechi posters flood Abuja

PRESIDENTIAL campaign posters featuring Jigawa State governor, Alhaji Sule Lamido, and his Rivers State counterpart, Rotimi Amaechi, surfaced in the Federal Capital Territory on Wednesday thus signalling an interesting twist to the 2015 elections.

The coloured posters, versions of which had been reportedly sighted earlier in Kaduna and Niger states, bear portraits of Lamido and Amaechi in a joint ticket campaign posture.

By the way, the two governors had at various times denied nursing such ambitions.

Our correspondents sighted a number of these posters along major highways especially in satellite towns and on flyovers in parts of the Federal Capital Territory.

Some of the posters, seen pasted along the Abuja-Gwarimpa-Kubwa Expressway, had the inscription “2015: Vote for Lamido/Amaechi ticket.”

The Peoples Democratic Party had on Monday suspended Amaechi, citing anti-party activities. The suspension came barely two days after Amaechi won a re-election as Chairman of the Nigerian Governors’ Forum, a post which the party had warned him not to contest.

He won against Plateau State Governor, Jonah Jang, said to be a favourite of the Presidency and leaders of the PDP.

Amaechi had described the suspension by the PDP National Working Committee as a political witch-hunt which he said showed the “desperation of Abuja people.”

He said the PDP gave him no fair hearing and that his suspension by the party was politically-motivated.

The Rivers governor on Tuesday asked the people of his state to pray for him, saying his life was in danger.

He had said, “The way these people at the federal level are desperate, they may come after my life; so when you pray, remember to pray for me to remain alive. Now, you see political witch-hunt. It is so ridiculous; my party must rise above political witch-hunt,” the governor said during an interactive session with the youths of the state.

The outcome of the NGF election has been mired in controversy with both Amaechi and Governor of Plateau State Jonah Jang, claiming victory.

Already, one of the governors from the northern part of the country, who spoke in confidence to some journalists in Abuja on Tuesday, said he and his colleagues were not moved with threats to either suspend or expel them from the party.

He said it would be wrong for the leadership of the party to claim ignorance of the law as stipulated in the PDP constitution concerning the party’s NEC.

The governor said he and his colleagues knew that one of the problems Amaechi had with the party was his presiding over PDP governors’ meetings, where the state chief executives demanded the convening of the NEC meeting.